The New I Do

Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua,Vicki Larson

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 158005546X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 8775

If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

The New I Do

Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua,Vicki Larson

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 1580055451

Category: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

Page: 240

View: 9366

If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. InThe New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them,The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

The New I Do

Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua,Vicki Larson

Publisher: Hachette UK

ISBN: 158005546X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 1065

If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

Contemplating Divorce

A Step-by-step Guide to Deciding Whether to Stay Or Go

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1572245247

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 4135

Just as there are right and wrong reasons to marry, there are good and bad reasons to divorce. Some couples are quick to split because they are unwilling to devote the necessary effort to fixing their relationships or to understanding their partners, while others miss out on personal fulfillment by staying too long in unhealthy marriages. This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision. Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on This is a much-needed book. The anxiety in making a life-changing decision is sometimes overwhelming. It is of immense help to have a coach like Susan Pease Gadoua! -John Bradshaw, best-selling author of Homecoming and Creating Love Better than therapy! Pease Gadoua allows the reader who is contemplating any great change to process the pros and cons in the confines of his or her own heart and mind, leaving no chance for those on the fence to skip out on the truth. A must-read for any transition. -Joan Anderson, bestselling author of A Year by the Sea, An Unfinished Marriage, A Walk on the Beach, and The Second Journey Making an appointment to see a divorce lawyer doesn't mean that the person I am advising necessarily needs or wants a divorce. With Pease Gadoua's wise, thorough, and accessible book, Contemplating Divorce, at last there is a resource I can give to confused and unhappy clients who think the marriage may be over but can't decide whether the embers are truly dead or not. -Pauline H. Tesler, author of Collaborative Divorce and Collaborative Law An exceptional and outstanding book for all those considering making the life-altering decision to divorce. Pease Gadoua offers profound personal insight and practical guidance that empowers adults to find clarity, overcome hurdles, and make the best choices for the future of their relationships. I wholeheartedly recommend Contemplating Divorce to men and women alike. -Helene Taylor, Esq., president and founder of TheModernWomansDivorceGuide.com

Stronger Day by Day

Reflections for Healing and Rebuilding After Divorce

Author: Susan Gadoua

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1572248106

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 200

View: 3730

It's no secret that divorce is one of life's most stressful experiences. While this transition may be painful, it can also awaken you to new possibilities and help you discover who you are and what you really want in life. Stronger Day by Day helps you get started on that new path by offering five-minute reflections, affirmations, and short journal exercises you can use each day to stay hopeful and emotionally centered as you move through this difficult time and eventually emerge with renewed confidence and strength.

The Normal Bar

The Surprising Secrets of Happy Couples and What They Reveal about Creating a New Normal in Your Relationship

Author: Chrisanna Northrup,Pepper Schwartz,James Witte

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307951642

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 290

View: 4348

Draws on an extensive survey of more than 100,000 people to identify norms in positive relationships while providing strategies for improvement, sharing insights into a range of areas from communication and sex to affection and financial cooperation. 75,000 first printing.

How to Fall in Love with Anyone

A Memoir in Essays

Author: Mandy Len Catron

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1501137468

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 2956

“A beautifully written and well-researched cultural criticism as well as an honest memoir” (Los Angeles Review of Books) from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, “Catron melds science and emotion beautifully into a thoughtful and thought-provoking meditation” (Bookpage). She delves back to 1944, when her grandparents met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from. And she tells the story of how she decided to test an experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. “Perfect fodder for the romantic and the cynic in all of us” (Booklist), How to Fall in Love with Anyone flips the script on love. “Clear-eyed and full of heart, it is mandatory reading for anyone coping with—or curious about—the challenges of contemporary courtship” (The Toronto Star).

Family by Choice

Platonic Partnered Parenting

Author: Rachel Hope

Publisher: Family by Choice

ISBN: 9780615946276

Category:

Page: 132

View: 2685

"While Partnered Parenting is an emotional experience, this book focuses on practical issues: Is partnered parenting right for you? What's the best way to screen potential partners on the Internet? What's a co-parenting courtship like? Will a partnered parenting contract be fair, effective, and legal?" Partnered Parenting encompasses a wide variety of arrangements in which parents do not have a marital or romantic connection. It's a family by choice that thousands of people are creating for many different reasons... -- To relieve the pressure of finding the "perfect" life partner. -- To avoid the ticking clock of needing to be married while still fertile. -- To freely search for an ideal marriage partner while moving forward with a family plan. -- To sustain a romantic interest with someone who can't have children or doesn't want a family. -- To continue a career without sacrificing the dream of having a family. -- To create a family that is compatible with many alternative lifestyles. -- To build a secure, loving home that fulfills material, emotional, and spiritual needs of parents and children alike. Rachel has been featured in national and international media, including ABC World News with Diane Sawyer, CNN, BBC, The Randy Martin Show KTOP (Washington DC), The Ricky Lake Show, The Jeff Probst Show, Sunrise Australia, Daybreak (UK), the New York Times, Al Jazeera, You Magazine (UK), The Observer (UK), Grazia Magazine (UK) and more. Rachel is also a regular contributor to the Google blog mom.me. She will be a featured speaker at the Fertility Planit conference at UCLA, in April 2014. She and her family are dual residents of Los Angeles and Hawaii.

Modern Love

50 True and Extraordinary Tales of Desire, Deceit and Devotion

Author: Daniel Jones

Publisher: Broadway Books

ISBN: 0307351041

Category: Literary Collections

Page: 373

View: 955

A compilation of fifty essays from the popular "Modern Love" column in The New York Times explores the intricacies and complications of negotiating love and loss in the twenty-first century, from a young woman's account of a relationship that moves from start to finish via text messages, to a jilted Casanova who learns that the woman is just not that into him. Original. 40,000 first printing.

How We Live Now

Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century

Author: Bella DePaulo

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1582704791

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 320

View: 9654

A close-up examination and exploration, How We Live Now challenges our old concepts of what it means to be a family and have a home, opening the door to the many diverse and thriving experiments of living in twenty-first century America. Across America and around the world, in cities and suburbs and small towns, people from all walks of life are redefining our “lifespaces”—the way we live and who we live with. The traditional nuclear family in their single-family home on a suburban lot has lost its place of prominence in contemporary life. Today, Americans have more choices than ever before in creating new ways to live and meet their personal needs and desires. Social scientist, researcher, and writer Bella DePaulo has traveled across America to interview people experimenting with the paradigm of how we live. In How We Live Now, she explores everything from multi-generational homes to cohousing communities where one’s “family” is made up of friends and neighbors to couples “living apart together” to single-living, and ultimately uncovers a pioneering landscape for living that throws the old blueprint out the window. Through personal interviews and stories, media accounts, and in-depth research, How We Live Now explores thriving lifespaces, and offers the reader choices that are freer, more diverse, and more attuned to our modern needs for the twenty-first century and beyond.

What Love Is

And What It Could Be

Author: Carrie Jenkins

Publisher: Basic Books

ISBN: 046509886X

Category: Philosophy

Page: 224

View: 7522

What is love? Aside from being the title of many a popular love song, this is one of life’s perennial questions. In What Love Is, philosopher Carrie Jenkins offers a bold new theory on the nature of romantic love that reconciles its humanistic and scientific components. Love can be a social construct (the idea of a perfect fairy tale romance) and a physical manifestation (those anxiety- inducing heart palpitations); we must recognize its complexities and decide for ourselves how to love. Motivated by her own polyamorous relationships, she examines the ways in which our parameters of love have recently changed—to be more accepting of homosexual, interracial, and non-monogamous relationships—and how they will continue to evolve in the future. Full of anecdotal, cultural, and scientific reflections on love, What Love Is is essential reading for anyone seeking to understand what it means to say “I love you.” Whether young or old, gay or straight, male or female, polyamorous or monogamous, this book will help each of us decide for ourselves how we choose to love.

Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give

Author: Ada Calhoun

Publisher: W. W. Norton & Company

ISBN: 0393254801

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 256

View: 4187

Inspired by her viral New York Times “Modern Love” essay “The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give”, Ada Calhoun’s memoir is a witty, poignant exploration of the beautiful complexity of marriage. We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single. In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.” Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”

Marriage Confidential

Love in the Post-Romantic Age

Author: Pamela Haag

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062079557

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 352

View: 4574

“Inthis timely and thought-provoking analysis of modern coupledom, PamelaHaag& paints a vivid tableau of the ‘semi-happy’ couple. Written withwit and aplomb, this page turner will instigate an insurrection against ourmarital complacency.” —Esther Perel, author of Matingin Captivity Writtenwith the persuasive power of Naomi Wolf and the analytical skills of Susan Faludi, Pamela Haag’s provocative but sympathetic look atthe state of marriage today answers—and goes beyond—the question many of us are asking: "Is this all there is?"

Snap Strategies for Couples

40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls

Author: Lana Staheli,Pepper Schwartz

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 158005563X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 8824

Snap Strategies for Couples: 40 Fast Fixes for Everyday Relationship Pitfalls is full of quick solutions to every relationship’s most common problems. Dr. Lana Staheli and Dr. Pepper Schwartz offer 40 practical, immediate fixes (or “snaps”) that partners can use to end the fighting, leave the baggage behind, and move their relationship forward. Snap Strategies for Couples is based on an alternative approach to prevailing advice that every issue has to be talked about at length, and that partners need to understand each other’s every motivation and thought process. Instead, these tips get right to the daily difficulties that cause the fights, addressing unhelpful behaviors and giving solutions to move past them. These clear and sensible strategies offer couples an alternative to lengthy, expensive, emotionally charged therapy sessions, which can sometimes cause as many issues as they’re meant to solve. Dr. Staheli and Dr. Schwartz cover all manner of problems, from everyday bickering to serious differences of opinion, giving readers guidance throughout the course of a relationship. Helpful for both longtime couples who have hit relationship snags and for newly committed partners looking to build healthy habits, Snap Strategies has positive, useful fixes that everyone can use.

Ultimate Immunity

Supercharge Your Body's Natural Healing Powers

Author: Elson Haas,Sondra Barrett

Publisher: Rodale Books

ISBN: 1623363918

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 352

View: 5822

If you think your immune system is just a simple thing that only helps you fight off colds and flus, think again. It is, in fact, a highly complex, protective, and intelligent system that can bolster health and healing from head to toe. A number of factors—from your diet, lifestyle, and the illnesses you’ve had to the medications you take or the toxins and people you interact with on a daily basis—can throw your immune system off balance, resulting in excessive inflammation that worsens allergies and pain and can even lead to serious health conditions. Don’t panic: You can feed, nourish, and teach your immune system to work better, which will result in lifelong health. In Ultimate Immunity, experts Drs. Elson Haas and Sondra Barrett guide you through a unique plan aimed at balancing, amplifying, and managing your immune health. Beginning with easy-to-understand explanations of what the immune system is, how it works, and how it fails, then moving on to five important ways to reset it, Ultimate Immunity provides the answers you need. Including diet, exercise, and stress-reduction tips, as well as testimonials from people who used these methods to overcome chronic pain and immune health issues for good, Ultimate Immunity is your guidebook to total health.

Infidelity

Why Men and Women Cheat

Author: Kenneth Paul Rosenberg

Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books

ISBN: 073822023X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 5873

What the latest science tells us about the brain's reward systems, love, and sex--and how to prevent an affair from destroying your life How can I prevent an affair from destroying my life? Whether I am the cheater or the betrayed partner, how can I survive, even thrive, in the wake of an affair? Infidelity provides key insights to find your true sexual and romantic potential and advocates honesty, trust, and integrity--the fundamentals of love. People often cheat in a haze of delusion, believing that it will bring them real love, help them have better sex, lift their spirits, and boost their sagging self-esteem; however, very often, cheating wrecks relationships and erodes self-esteem. In Infidelity, one of America's top doctors combines neuroscience, addiction theory, and common sense to explain the three types of cheating: emotional, virtual, and physical; why they're so prevalent; and how to live in accordance with our values when we are drawn to stray. Examining what the latest science tells us about the brain's reward systems, love, and sex, Dr. Kenneth Paul Rosenberg reveals what drives men and women to cheat and what they can do about it. At a time when America's pornography obsession rises to the level of a competing sexual interest, when is porn a problem, and when does it count as infidelity? And since it is not the act of infidelity alone that destroys a couple, how does any couple prevent growing apart? Through concrete rules addressing these and other vital questions, Dr. Rosenberg guides couples on how to prevent cheating, stop it from progressing, and repair the damage caused by an affair.

Scattered Seeds

In Search of Family and Identity in the Sperm Donor Generation

Author: Jacqueline Mroz

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 1580056172

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

View: 5130

As typical as donor-conceived children have become, with at least a million such children in the US alone, their experiences are still unusual in many ways. In Scattered Seeds, journalist and writer Jacqueline Mroz looks at the growth of sperm donation and assisted reproduction and how it affects the children who are born, the women who buy and use the sperm to have kids, and the sperm donors who donate their genetic material to help others procreate. With empathy and in-depth analysis, Scattered Seeds explores the sociology, psychology, and anthropology surrounding those connected with fertility procedures today and looks back at the history that brought us to this point. The personal stories in this book will put a human face on the issues and help to illuminate this country's controversial and troubling unregulated fertility industry-an industry that has been compared to the Wild, Wild West, where anything goes. What is the human cost of our country's unregulated fertility industry? How are the lives of sperm-donor families changed? Scattered Seeds will answer those questions, considering carefully the social and psychological dynamics surrounding those connected with fertility procedures today.

Love Illuminated

Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject (with the Help of 50,000 Strangers)

Author: Daniel Jones

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062211188

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

View: 8158

From the editor of the New York Times' popular "Modern Love" column, the story of love from beginning to end (or not). Love. We want it. We need it. We pay it homage with songs and poems and great works of art. And when we lose it, there's no pain as intense or excruciating. For centuries we've been trying to figure it out, control it, or just get better at it. As the editor of a column about love for the New York Times, Daniel Jones reads thousands of stories about people's intimate relationships—the ones that soar, crash, or hum along, from the bizarre to the supposedly “normal.” It's possible that he's read more true love stories than anyone on earth. In Love Illuminated, he teases apart this mystifying emotion that thrills, crushes, and sustains. Drawing from the 50,000 stories that have crossed his desk over the past decade, Jones explores ten aspects of love—pursuit, destiny, vulnerability, connection, trust, practicality, monotony, infidelity, loyalty, and wisdom—and creates a lively, funny and enlightening journey through this universal human experience that jangles the head and stirs the heart.

The Importance of Being Little

What Young Children Really Need from Grownups

Author: Erika Christakis

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 0698195019

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 400

View: 9596

“Christakis . . . expertly weaves academic research, personal experience and anecdotal evidence into her book . . . a bracing and convincing case that early education has reached a point of crisis . . . her book is a rare thing: a serious work of research that also happens to be well-written and personal . . . engaging and important.” --Washington Post "What kids need from grown-ups (but aren't getting)...an impassioned plea for educators and parents to put down the worksheets and flash cards, ditch the tired craft projects (yes, you, Thanksgiving Handprint Turkey) and exotic vocabulary lessons, and double-down on one, simple word: play." --NPR.org The New York Times bestseller that provides a bold challenge to the conventional wisdom about early childhood, with a pragmatic program to encourage parents and teachers to rethink how and where young children learn best by taking the child’s eye view of the learning environment To a four-year-old watching bulldozers at a construction site or chasing butterflies in flight, the world is awash with promise. Little children come into the world hardwired to learn in virtually any setting and about any matter. Yet in today’s preschool and kindergarten classrooms, learning has been reduced to scripted lessons and suspect metrics that too often undervalue a child’s intelligence while overtaxing the child’s growing brain. These mismatched expectations wreak havoc on the family: parents fear that if they choose the “wrong” program, their child won’t get into the “right” college. But Yale early childhood expert Erika Christakis says our fears are wildly misplaced. Our anxiety about preparing and safeguarding our children’s future seems to have reached a fever pitch at a time when, ironically, science gives us more certainty than ever before that young children are exceptionally strong thinkers. In her pathbreaking book, Christakis explains what it’s like to be a young child in America today, in a world designed by and for adults, where we have confused schooling with learning. She offers real-life solutions to real-life issues, with nuance and direction that takes us far beyond the usual prescriptions for fewer tests, more play. She looks at children’s use of language, their artistic expressions, the way their imaginations grow, and how they build deep emotional bonds to stretch the boundaries of their small worlds. Rather than clutter their worlds with more and more stuff, sometimes the wisest course for us is to learn how to get out of their way. Christakis’s message is energizing and reassuring: young children are inherently powerful, and they (and their parents) will flourish when we learn new ways of restoring the vital early learning environment to one that is best suited to the littlest learners. This bold and pragmatic challenge to the conventional wisdom peels back the mystery of childhood, revealing a place that’s rich with possibility. From the Hardcover edition.

The Mount

A Novel

Author: Carol Emshwiller

Publisher: Small Beer Press

ISBN: 9781931520034

Category: Fiction

Page: 232

View: 6095

In a world where humans are enslaved by alien invaders called Hoots, Charlie, a human "mount", dreams of being a runner like his father, of seeing his long-lost parents again, and of the day when humans will rule the world again.