The Lost Art of Listening

How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships

Author: Michael P. Nichols

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 1606230646

Category: Psychology

Page: 314

View: 1598

One person talks; the other listens. It's so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we actually are. Why do we so often fail to connect when speaking with family members, romantic partners, colleagues, or friends? How do emotional reactions get in the way of real communication? This thoughtful, witty, and empathic book has already helped over 100,000 readers break through conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships. Experienced therapist Mike Nichols provides vivid examples, easy-to-learn techniques, and practical exercises for becoming a better listener--and making yourself heard and understood, even in difficult situations.

The Lost Art of Listening, Second Edition

How Learning to Listen Can Improve Relationships

Author: Michael P. Nichols

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 9781606237366

Category: Psychology

Page: 314

View: 7130

One person talks; the other listens. It's so basic that we take it for granted. Unfortunately, most of us think of ourselves as better listeners than we actually are. Why do we so often fail to connect when speaking with family members, romantic partners, colleagues, or friends? How do emotional reactions get in the way of real communication? This thoughtful, witty, and empathic book has already helped over 125,000 readers break through conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships. Experienced therapist Mike Nichols provides vivid examples, easy-to-learn techniques, and practical exercises for becoming a better listener--and making yourself heard and understood, even in difficult situations.

Power Listening

Mastering the Most Critical Business Skill of All

Author: Bernard T. Ferrari

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101560541

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 208

View: 2233

Listening is harder than it looks- but it's the difference between business success and failure. Nothing causes bad decisions in organizations as often as poor listening. But Bernard Ferrari, adviser to some of the nation's most influential executives, believes that such missteps can be avoided and that the skills and habits of good listening can be developed and mastered. He offers a step-by-step process that will help readers become active listeners, able to shape and focus any conversation. Ferrari reveals how to turn a tin ear into a platinum ear. His practical insights include: Good listening is hard work, not a passive activity Good listening means asking questions, challenging all assumptions, and understanding the context of every interaction Good listening results in a new clarity of focus, greater efficiency, and an increased likelihood of making better decisions Good listening can be the difference between a long career and a short one

The Art of Listening

Author: Erich Fromm

Publisher: Open Road Media

ISBN: 1480401986

Category: Psychology

Page: 204

View: 8132

A thoughtful examination of psychotherapy from Erich Fromm, a celebrated leader in the field Over the course of a distinguished career, Erich Fromm built a reputation as a talented speaker and gifted psychoanalyst—the first specialization of this polymath. The Art of Listening is a transcription of a seminar Fromm gave in 1974 to American students in Switzerland. It provides insight into Fromm’s therapy techniques as well as his thoughts and mindset while working. In this intimate look at his profession, Fromm dismantles psychoanalysis and then reassembles it in a clear and engaging fashion. This ebook features an illustrated biography of Erich Fromm including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s estate.

Listen Up

How to Improve Relationships, Reduce Stress, and be More Productive by Using the Power of Listening

Author: Larry Lee Barker,Kittie W. Watson

Publisher: St Martins Press

ISBN: 9780312242657

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 203

View: 1057

This guidebook offers advice on how to improve relationships, reduce stress, and be more productive by using the power of listening.

Love Busters

Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love

Author: Willard F. Jr. Harley

Publisher: Revell

ISBN: 0800718941

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 320

View: 7609

In this fifteenth anniversary edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love.

Just Listen

Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone

Author: Mark Goulston

Publisher: AMACOM Div American Mgmt Assn

ISBN: 081443648X

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 256

View: 453

Do you ever feel like you're talking to a brick wall? The first step in persuading anyone to do anything is getting them to hear you out. But whether the person is a cynical colleague, furious customer, or overwhelmed spouse, their emotional barriers may be blocking your message. And if you can't break through, you can't move forward. Just Listen has helped tens of thousands of people tear down walls and establish productive communication. In this landmark book, veteran psychiatrist and business coach Mark Goulston reveals simple, proven techniques for moving people from resistance to consensus, explaining how to: Listen effectively Make even a total stranger—perhaps a potential client—feel "felt" Shift an angry or aggressive person into a calmer, more receptive state Use empathy jolts to quickly bridge communication gaps Turn negative people into assets using the "Magic Paradox" Achieve buy-in, the linchpin of all negotiation, persuasion, and sales And more Barricades between people become barriers to success and happiness, so getting through is not just a fine art—it's a crucial skill. With Just Listen, readers learn how to transform the "impossible" and "unreachable" people in their lives into true allies, loyal customers, and lifelong friends.

No Place to Hide

Facing Shame So We Can Find Self-respect

Author: Michael P. Nichols

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9781573920162

Category: Self-Help

Page: 366

View: 5060

Each of us is controlled in some way by shame, one of the ugliest emotions in human experience. It saps our self-respect, builds walls between people, and forces us to create elaborate defenses to protect ourselves. This informative and practical analysis of the role of shame in our lives helps us to understand the root of our insecurity. Only by facing and coming to terms with our shame can we begin to resolve insecurities and become free to participate fully in life. Nichols discusses love and worth, the social sources of humiliation, the frustration of adolescence, and positive parenting, among other important topics, in this wonderful combination of clinical sophistication, common sense, and humanity!

Are You Really Listening?

Keys to Successful Communication

Author: Paul J. Donoghue,Mary E. Siegel

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9781893732889

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

View: 6065

A guide to effective communication that helps the reader learn the joys of listening and being listened to. Posing questions such as Why do we often feel cut off when speaking to people closest to us?, What is it that keeps so many of us from really listening?, it provides a look at the reasons why people don't listen.

How To Win Friends and Influence People

Author: Dale Carnegie

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 9781451621716

Category: Self-Help

Page: 320

View: 5973

You can go after the job you want—and get it! You can take the job you have—and improve it! You can take any situation—and make it work for you! Dale Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their business and personal lives. One of the most groundbreaking and timeless bestsellers of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People will teach you: -Six ways to make people like you -Twelve ways to win people to your way of thinking -Nine ways to change people without arousing resentment And much more! Achieve your maximum potential—a must-read for the twenty-first century with more than 15 million copies sold!

The Listening Life

Embracing Attentiveness in a World of Distraction

Author: Adam S. McHugh

Publisher: InterVarsity Press

ISBN: 0830844120

Category: Psychology

Page: 224

View: 3469

Listening is an essential skill for healthy relationships, both with God and with other people. But it is more than that: listening is a way of life. Adam McHugh places listening at the heart of our spirituality, our relationships and our mission. Heed the call to the listening life, and hear what God is doing in you and the world.

The art of listening

Author: Les Back

Publisher: Berg Publishers

ISBN: 9781845201203

Category: Language Arts & Disciplines

Page: 210

View: 5617

Our culture is one that speaks rather than listens. From reality TV to political rallies, there is a clamour to be heard, to narrate, and to receive attention. It reduces 'reality' to revelation and voyeurism. The Art of Listening argues that this way of life is having severe and damaging consequences in a world that is increasingly globalized and where time and space is ever more rare. It addresses the question: how can we listen more carefully? Theory is combined with real stories from the experiences of the desperate stowaways who hide in the undercarriage of jet planes in order to seek asylum, to the young working-class people who use tattooing to commemorate a lost love. Les Back shows how sociology is in a unique position to record 'life passed in living' and to listen to complex experiences with humility and ethical care, in opposition to the Babel of voyeurism that has taken hold in the mainstream media.

Listening

the forgotten skill

Author: Madelyn Burley-Allen

Publisher: Wiley

ISBN: N.A

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 194

View: 4053

A proven program for turning effective listening into a powerful business tool Managers and other employees spend more than 40 percent of their time listening to other people but often do it so poorly that the result is misunderstood instructions, misdirected projects, and erroneous actions--millions of dollars' worth of mistakes just because most people don't know how to listen. In this new edition of her classic guide to the art of effective listening, Madelyn Burley-Allen shows you how to acquire active, productive listening skills and put them to work for you--professionally, socially, and personally. With her time-tested techniques, you'll learn how to: * Eliminate distractions and improve your concentration on what is being said * Locate key words, phrases, and ideas while listening * Cut through your own listening biases * Interpret body language clues * Ask constructive, nonthreatening questions that elicit real information * Get others to listen to you * Master a whole range of listening skills that you can use on the job and in your personal life Listening: The Forgotten Skill uses an interactive learning approach with work-sheets, charts, graphs, and self-tests that help you pace and monitor your own progress.

We Need to Talk

How to Have Conversations That Matter

Author: Celeste Headlee

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 0062669028

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 9635

“WE NEED TO TALK.” In this urgent and insightful book, public radio journalist Celeste Headlee shows us how to bridge what divides us--by having real conversations BASED ON THE TED TALK WITH OVER 10 MILLION VIEWS NPR's Best Books of 2017 Winner of the 2017 Silver Nautilus Award in Relationships & Communication “We Need to Talk is an important read for a conversationally-challenged, disconnected age. Headlee is a talented, honest storyteller, and her advice has helped me become a better spouse, friend, and mother.” (Jessica Lahey, author of New York Times bestseller The Gift of Failure) Today most of us communicate from behind electronic screens, and studies show that Americans feel less connected and more divided than ever before. The blame for some of this disconnect can be attributed to our political landscape, but the erosion of our conversational skills as a society lies with us as individuals. And the only way forward, says Headlee, is to start talking to each other. In We Need to Talk, she outlines the strategies that have made her a better conversationalist—and offers simple tools that can improve anyone’s communication. For example: BE THERE OR GO ELSEWHERE. Human beings are incapable of multitasking, and this is especially true of tasks that involve language. Think you can type up a few emails while on a business call, or hold a conversation with your child while texting your spouse? Think again. CHECK YOUR BIAS. The belief that your intelligence protects you from erroneous assumptions can end up making you more vulnerable to them. We all have blind spots that affect the way we view others. Check your bias before you judge someone else. HIDE YOUR PHONE. Don’t just put down your phone, put it away. New research suggests that the mere presence of a cell phone can negatively impact the quality of a conversation. Whether you’re struggling to communicate with your kid’s teacher at school, an employee at work, or the people you love the most—Headlee offers smart strategies that can help us all have conversations that matter.

Stop Arguing with Your Kids

How to Win the Battle of Wills by Making Your Children Feel Heard

Author: Michael P. Nichols

Publisher: Guilford Press

ISBN: 160918940X

Category: Psychology

Page: 229

View: 6511

For parents fed up with constant challenges to their authority-but who dread becoming tyrants in their own homes-this book provides a powerful new alternative to "because I said so." Trusted family therapist and author Michael P. Nichols takes on the number-one problem of parents today with the insight and humor that has made his earlier The Lost Art of Listening an enduring bestseller. Presented is a simple, easy-to-follow, yet remarkably effective way to put an end to arguments by refusing to argue back. Instead, the techniques of responsive listening help parents open up better communication in the family; create an atmosphere of respect and cooperation; and take children's feelings into account-without giving in to their demands. Loads of realistic examples help parents defuse whining and defiance and manage common conflicts with preschoolers to teens.

Why Don't We Listen Better?

Communicating & Connecting in Relationships

Author: James C. Petersen

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 0979155924

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 9875

You can listen your way to better relationships. This often humorous book, loaded with practical tips, examples, and techniques, will bail you out of touchy situations. Dr. Jim Petersen's powerfully intuitive yet tongue-in-cheek Flat Brain Theory shows how and why we get upset and confused and what to do about it. We may think we’re good listeners, but not many of us are. When others talk, we focus on what we think, rather than what they are trying to say. Few of us know how to use the power of listening to improve life for ourselves or those around us. Jim says that good communication uses the same skills in a professional office, on a date, in a corporate boardroom, or at a kitchen table. He discusses the need to abandon the win-lose mentality of the courtroom-like culture that so often puts us at odds with each other. “Listen” shows how to improve talking and listening skills using the Talker-Listener Card. This creative use of the “taking turns” we learned as children can end arguing as we know it. He presents more than thirty time-tested listening techniques to help you deal with common communication land mines and listen your way to better relationships, from intimate to casual and work-related. Petersen’s pièce de résistance, the inventive Talker-Listener Card is practical, easy to use and portable, a format that elevates idle banter and argument into the arena of authentic dialogue. When people use the card they help each other relax, think clearer and build empathy and cooperation. He includes chapters on using the Card to improve listening with couples, difficult groups and as a family dinner table game. It along with the book are great resources for counselors and counselees. Why Don’t We Listen Better? presents other original easy-to-use tools and techniques to help people develop skills at what he calls come-alive communication. E-book Apps are great ways to get the most out of this book. It is organized in short sections, labeled in the Table of Contents so you can click on and immediately find the technique or idea you want to review. The thirty listening techniques can travel with you, get you started improving your relationships and help you listen effectively. His insights will give you creative ways to handle both daily interactions and the difficult situations of anger, grief and conflict. This veteran counselor’s unique approach to listening has changed lives. He distilled forty plus years of pastoral experience, counseling and teaching into this informal volume loaded with practical tips, examples, and techniques to practice. An experienced seminar and workshop leader, Jim has taught his practical techniques to corporate clients, city governments, colleges and universities, the hearing-impaired community, students, teachers, parents, couples and churches. The informal manner that endears him to novices and experts alike is reflected in this valuable book for anyone who communicates with others. In retirement Jim maintains a counseling practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor in Oregon, specializing in counseling couples and teaching effective communication. His degrees include a Master of Divinity and Doctor of Ministry from San Francisco Theological Seminary and a BA in mathematics from Lewis and Clark College in Portland, Oregon.

Listening Skills

Master the Art of Listening and Communication Skills for a More Confident Life

Author: Michele Gilbert

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781514630266

Category:

Page: 32

View: 1904

Do You Know The Fastest Way To Real Intimacy? Its As Simple As Listening. Just Listen Tired of people labeling you as a forgetful person or blowing up on you for checking the score instead of listening to their story about work or a dream they had? Well, there's a reason for that. It's because you're not listening to them. In fact, no matter who you are, we can all learn to listen better. It's going to change the way you see others, the world around you, and how successful you are. No joke. If you want better intimacy with lovers or friends, better progress in your career, more sex, or just to be smarter and wiser; then start listening. Learn... Listen: The Art of the Ear The Ballad of the Man Who Wouldn't Listen Avoiding Misunderstandings: Just Listen Listen: The Slave of the Machine The Accusation of Not Listening How to Inspire Interest: Just Listen The Way of Intimacy: Just Listen The Core of Communication Download: "Listening Skills Master The Art Of Listening And Communication Skills For A More Confident Life" Scroll to the top and select the BUY button

Powerful Listening. Powerful Influence. Work Better. Live Better. Love Better.

By Mastering the Art of Skillful Listening

Author: Tim Hast

Publisher: CreateSpace

ISBN: 9781490313559

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 222

View: 8691

Want to win friends and really influence people? This book was written for you. Listening is the most powerful tool for success in business and in life. So if it's that important, why don't we listen better? Because life moves way too fast, we're busy, and we don't know how. Discover what active listening is and what it is not. Learn four simple actions that will train your brain to listen, and see for yourself the difference these steps make in your life. People need to be heard. If you understand this simple principle you're well on your way along the road to success. Nothing you can say will be nearly as important as what you need to hear the other person say. Practice skillful listening and discover the principle key to effective communication and having a powerful influence with others. Tim was trained as a psychotherapist. His specialty, working with couples. He discovered people got better when he quit trying to tell them what to do and simply focused on hearing their story and helped them listen to each other. He observed if he taught a couple to really listen to each other, their relationship improved. One couple saw how it improved their relationship and used those same skills with their teenagers. It worked. The husband, a CEO, used the same listening techniques in his office and found it really worked there as well! Skillful active listening works for everybody. If you read this book and begin to practice the four simple steps you will increase your odds of success in your career, have deeper richer relationships, and enjoy a more satisfying life.

The Zen of Listening

Mindful Communication in the Age of Distraction

Author: Rebecca Z Shafir

Publisher: Quest Books

ISBN: 0835630072

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 4908

TV, radio, traffic, telephones, pagers - our minds are bombarded daily by constant noise and clutter. No wonder so many people find it increasingly difficult to listen and comprehend. Simple pieces of information such as names go "in one ear and out the other." Poor listening may have tragic consequences such as the Challenger disaster and the Potomac River crash of 1982, or it can result in smaller tragedies such as lost promotions, stalled marriages, and troubled children. Rebecca Shafir assures us that we can transform every aspect of our lives, simply by relearning how to listen. The Zen of Listening is grounded in the Zen concept of mindfulness, a simple yet profound way of learning how to filter our distractions and be totally in the present. Rather than a list of tricks, this book is an all-encompassing approach allowing you to transform your life. Readers will be amazed at how simply learning to focus intently on a speaker improves the relationship, increases attention span, and helps develop negotiating skills. Learn the great barricades of misunderstanding, find out how to listen to ourselves, discover how to listen under stress, and boost our memory. This is a fun and practical guide filled with simple strategies to use immediately to enjoy our personal and professional lives to the fullest.