I Love You but I'm Not in Love with You

Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship

Author: Andrew G Marshall

Publisher: A&C Black

ISBN: 1408810980

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

View: 6388

How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: 'I love you but I'm not in love with you'. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough? From his research Andrew has devised his own unique programme. By looking at how a couple communicate, argue, share love, take responsibility, give and learn he offers in seven steps a reassuring and empowering map for how two individuals can better understand themselves, strengthen their bond and recover that lost magic.

I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You

Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship

Author: Andrew G. Marshall

Publisher: Marshall Method Publishing

ISBN: 1783018178

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 314

View: 3626

If your relationship with your significant other is defined more by companionship than passion... if you love each other deeply but are not deeply in love... if you feel that something's missing or is no longer there... then you could be experiencing ILYB (I Love You, But...). In 'I Love You, but I'm Not in Love with You' couple's counsellor Andrew G. Marshall draws on twenty years of experience to help couples who have 'fallen out of love' or want to rekindle the love that once was to learn how to use Marshall's program with impressive results.

I Love You But I Don't Trust You

The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship

Author: Mira Kirshenbaum

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101560045

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

View: 4202

Is my relationship worth saving? Will the trust ever come back? How can things be good between us again? Whether broken trust is due to daily dishonesties, a monumental betrayal, or even a history of hurts from the past, it can put a relationship at risk. This is the first book to show you exactly what to do to restore trust in your relationship, regardless of how it was damaged. In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.

Divorce Busting

A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again

Author: Michele Weiner Davis

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 0671797255

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

View: 543

In this groundbreaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on preventing divorce and how couples can stay together instead of coming apart. Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers: * How to leave the past behind and set attainable goals * Strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works—and how to make changes last * "Uncommon-sense" methods for breaking unproductive patterns Inspirational and accessible, Divorce Busting shows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out.

Paris, I Love You but You're Bringing Me Down

Author: Rosecrans Baldwin

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 1429942738

Category: Travel

Page: 304

View: 3701

A self-described Francophile from when he was little, Rosecrans Baldwin always dreamed of living in Paris—drinking le café, eating les croissants, walking in les jardins—so when an opportunity presented itself to work for an advertising agency in Paris, he couldn't turn it down. Despite the fact that he had no experience in advertising. And despite the fact that he barely spoke French. After an unimaginable amount of red tape and bureaucracy, Rosecrans and his wife packed up their Brooklyn apartment and left the Big Apple for the City of Light. But when they arrived, things were not eactly what Rosecrans remembered from a family vacation when he was nine years old. Paris, I Love You but You're Bringing Me Down is a nimble comic account of observing the French capital from the inside out. It is an exploration of the Paris of Sarkozy, text-message romances, smoking bans, and a McDonald's beneath the Louvre—the story of an American who arrives loving Paris all out of proportion, but finds life there to be completely unlike what he expected. Over eighteen months, Rosecrans must rely on his dogged American optimism to get him through some very unromantic situations—at work (writing booklets on how to breast-feed, raise, and nurture children), at home (trying to finish writing his first novel in an apartment surrounded on all sides by construction workers), and at every confusing French dinner party in between. An offbeat update to the expat canon, Paris, I Love You is a book about a young man finding his preconceptions replaced by the oddities of a vigorous, nervy city—which is just what he needs to fall in love with Paris for the second time.

Anxious in Love

How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect with Your Partner

Author: Carolyn Daitch,Lissah Lorberbaum

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1608822338

Category: Self-Help

Page: 208

View: 3717

Healthy relationships require trust, intimacy, effective communication, and understanding. However, if you suffer from chronic anxiety you may have trouble dealing with everyday conflicts and tensions that can arise in relationships. No matter how committed you are, anxiety can leave you feeling distanced from your partner. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to overcome the anxiety-fueled reactions that keep you from achieving true closeness in your relationship. Written by two experts on anxiety disorders, Anxious in Love offers easy-to-use techniques for calming anxieties and strengthening communication in your relationship. With this book, you will learn to stay centered when faced with conflict, understand your partner’s perspective, and become more independent. By changing the way you react to triggers and stress, you will be able to focus on enjoying time with the one you love, without anxiety getting in the way.

I Wrote This Book Because I Love You

Essays

Author: Tim Kreider

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1476738998

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 224

View: 8899

New York Times essayist and author of We Learn Nothing, Tim Kreider trains his virtuoso writing and singular power of observation on his (often befuddling) relationships with women. Psychologists have told him he’s a psychologist. Philosophers have told him he’s a philosopher. Religious groups have invited him to speak. He had a cult following as a cartoonist. But, above all else, Tim Kreider is an essayist—one whose deft prose, uncanny observations, dark humor, and emotional vulnerability have earned him deserved comparisons to David Sedaris, Sarah Vowell, and the late David Foster Wallace (who was himself a fan of Kreider’s humor). In his new collection, I Wrote This Book Because I Love You, he focuses his unique perception and wit on his relationships with women—romantic, platonic, and the murky in-between. He talks about his difficulty finding lasting love, and seeks to understand his commitment issues by tracking down the John Hopkins psychologist who tested him for a groundbreaking study on attachment when he was a toddler. He talks about his valued female friendships, one of which landed him on a circus train bound for Mexico. He talks about his time teaching young women at an upstate New York college, and the profound lessons they wound up teaching him. And in a hugely popular essay that originally appeared in The New York Times, he talks about his nineteen-year-old cat, wondering if it’s the most enduring relationship he’ll ever have. Each of these pieces is hilarious and profound, and collectively they further cement Kreider’s place among the best essayists working today.

This Book Loves You

Author: PewDiePie

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101999063

Category: Young Adult Nonfiction

Page: 256

View: 2393

This Book Loves You by PewDiePie is a collection of beautifully illustrated inspirational sayings by which you should live your life. If you follow each and every one, your life will become easier, more fabulous, more rewarding. Imagine what a chilled-out and wonderful human being people would think you were if you lived by the simple principle "You can never fail if you never try." Your wasted life would be an inspiration to others. Think of all the pointless, unhappy striving you could simply give up. Throw away that guitar! Give up on your dreams! Embrace your astounding mediocrity. This Book Loves You has something for everyone--or at least everyone willing to give up and stop caring. If all else fails, remember: "Don’t be yourself. Be a pizza. Everyone loves pizza."

I Love You the Purplest

Author: Barbara M. Joosse,Mary Whyte

Publisher: Chronicle Books

ISBN: 9780811807180

Category: Juvenile Fiction

Page: 32

View: 2787

Two boys discover that their mother loves them equally but in different ways.

Learn to Love Yourself Enough

7 Steps to Improving Your Self-Esteem and Your Relationships

Author: Andrew G. Marshall

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0957429789

Category: Self-Help

Page: 192

View: 3965

Create a wealth of self-worth. In a black-and-white world, there are two types of people—those who love themselves too much (and walk over everybody else) or hate themselves for failing to achieve goals (and probably end up being taken advantage of by others). But, according to British marital therapist, Andrew G. Marshall, neither has a healthy perception of oneself. This is because the secret to self-esteem does not lie in the extremes of love and hate, but in the middle, in the gray area that teaches us to love ourselves just enough: enough to have love to offer others; enough to be open to receive love from others. Only when this kind of balance is created, can self-love exist. Like no other book on self-esteem ever written, Learn to Love Yourself Enough helps readers walk through life on middle ground by revealing the seven factors that, together, add up to a wealth of self-worth. Examine your relationship with your parents: Discover the six types of child-parent relationships and how to accept the legacy of your past. Find Forgiveness: Debunk the two myths about forgiveness and discover what can be gained from negative experiences. Don't let other people put you down: Recognize the five phases of projection and how understanding our own projections lead to better and happy relationships. Re-program your inner voice: Identify the three kinds of negative thinking that work together to undermine self-confidence and whether they are based on fact or just opinion. Set realistic goals: Learn how perfectionism undermines self-esteem. Re-balance yourself: Understand that problems lurk in the extremes and why the middle way is the most successful way. Conquer Fears and Setbacks: Overcome the day-to-day problems that life and other people throw at us.

My Wife Doesn't Love Me Anymore

The Love Coach Guide to Winning Her Back

Author: Andrew G. Marshall

Publisher: Marshall Method Publishing

ISBN: 0957429746

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 144

View: 6832

Men aren't trained to take the temperature on their marriages and check if it's in good health. They tend to leave that up to their wives, so it can come as a huge shock when she tells him "I don't love you anymore." OK, he sort of knew she hadn't been happy but thought that if he kept his head down it would blow over. However, she's not saying "there's a problem we need to fix" but that "it's over and we need to tell the kids and split up." Suddenly, the bottom has dropped out of his world. He doesn't know where to turn, how to make sense of what she's saying and worse still how to start fixing the problem. His friends will offer a drink to cheer him up but no practical advice and media aimed at men is full of sport, politics and business. He's in a spin, begging for another chance and telling her "I still love you" just makes her colder and even more angry. Fortunately, internationally renowned marriage counselor Andrew G. Marshall has written My Wife Doesn't Love Me Anymore, to explain how to get your wife to fall in love with you all over again and rebuild a relationship that's more loving and fulfilling than ever. Offering techniques, strategies, and practical advice gleaned from more than thirty years of helping men manage their shock and navigate their way toward a relationship that their wife is crying out for, Marshall explains: How to figure out why she's fallen out of love Five things you think will save your relationship but should absolutely avoid What her words and actions really mean and how to use them to win her back What to do to instantly improve the atmosphere at home How to prevent past mistakes from undermining your attempts to build a better future Five pick me up tips when you're down and need to keep focused When it's time to admit it's over and what factors indicate you should still fight the good fight Whether she's told you "I don't want to work it out", "my feelings won't change", or the heart wrenching "I'm attracted to someone else", this book can help you turn it all around and provide scripts to make her open her heart again.

NOT "Just Friends"

Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity

Author: Shirley Glass

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1416586407

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 448

View: 7924

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

This Is Not the Story You Think It Is...

A Season of Unlikely Happiness

Author: Laura Munson

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1101186194

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 352

View: 7475

By the time Laura Munson had turned 40, her life was not how she thought it would turn out. Career success had eluded her; her beloved father was no longer around to be her biggest cheerleader; and her husband wanted out of their marriage. Poignant, wise, and often exceedingly funny, this is the moment-by- moment memoir of a woman who decided to let go-in the midst of the emotional equivalent of a Category 5 hurricane. It recounts what happened as Munson set out on her spiritual journey-and provides raw, powerful inspiration to anyone searching for peace in an utterly unpredictable world.

My Husband Doesn't Love Me and He's Texting Someone Else

The Love Coach Guide to Winning Him Back

Author: Andrew G. Marshall

Publisher: Health Communications, Inc.

ISBN: 0992971845

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 232

View: 9934

When a husband tells his wife, or she suspects, that he no longer ioves her she may feel as though her world is ending but in this positive and powerful book, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has a message of hope. It is possible to turn a relationship around and emerge with a stronger bond. In Part One, he explains: How to get to the bottom of why he's fallen out of love. What's really going through his mind. Why your husband has turned into a stranger. The signs that show if he's depressed and what to do about it. How to build better communication and start improving your relationship. In Part Two, he discusses how to tell if there's another woman and gauge whether she really is a threat, including: The six types of other woman, from 'a spark' to 'the love of his life'. Tailored strategies for dealing with each type. Five worst and best reactions after uncovering what's really going on. How to keep calm even when provoked. How to combat the poison that she's slipping into your relationship. When to keep fighting and when to make a tactical withdrawal

The Love Fix

Repair and Restore Your Relationship Right Now

Author: Tara Fields, PhD

Publisher: HarperCollins

ISBN: 0062414011

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

View: 4834

All couples argue, but how do some couples get to what seems like the point of no return? Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Tara Fields has spent more than twenty-eight years working with couples, and she has discovered that there are five common conflict loops that couples fall into—and three steps to getting past having the same fights over and over again and onward to building a relationship where each partner feels heard, understood, respected, and loved. These steps include: Recognizing the conflict loop at play Exploring past and present fears Creating opportunities to get in touch with the deepest needs of both partners in order to find new gratitude, respect, and trust Change comes with awareness. When you’re present in the moment, conflict with your partner can become an opportunity to work through unresolved issues and to learn more about each other; it can even become a way to grow closer. In The Love Fix, Fields shares her tested and proven tools to help build stronger relationships, including: Insight from real couples who have repaired their relationships Self-assessment quizzes to get to the root of the problem Practical 3-Minute Fixes you can start using immediately HEARTwork exercises to help you dig deeper in order to reconnect It’s never too late to reignite your passion and to restore the love between you and your partner. Stop rehashing the same issues, figure out what you’re really fighting about, and start enjoying a happier, stronger relationship today.

The Truth About Men

The Secret Side of the Opposite Sex

Author: Ian Smith

Publisher: Macmillan

ISBN: 1250004276

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 208

View: 343

Debunks popular beliefs to reveal what today's men think about such topics as commitment, beauty, sex, and relationships, counseling women on how to understand a man's needs and motivations in order to promote more fulfilling relationships.

How to Love Me

The Lovers' Book of Questions

Author: Ali Davis

Publisher: Sterling Publishing Company

ISBN: 9781402749186

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 93

View: 5297

Geared specifically to women and the men who care for them, How to Love Me is designed to heat up and enhance a couple’s relationship. Filled with probing, inventive questions on love and sex, it’s sure to elicit eye-opening answers and take lovers on an exciting journey of discovery. Most important of all, the guide helps women and men express their true feelings to their partners and reveal exactly how they want to be loved, emotionally and physically. The questions range from the quirky to the serious, inquiring into expectations, hopes, dreams, and desires. From your turn-ons to taboos, feelings towards your partner to thoughts about marriage, these questions allow you to articulate it all!

Have the Sex You Want

A Couple's Guide to Getting Back the Spark

Author: Andrew G. Marshall

Publisher: Marshall Method Publishing

ISBN: 9780957429796

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 252

View: 9261

No more excuses for a sexless relationship. Here's a program that finally gets to the root of a silent epidemic. Andrew G. Marshall, Great Britain's premier relationship expert and author, brings to the States his research-based program for ending obligatory 'going through the motions' sex. In Have the Sex You Want, Marshall moves away from the symptoms and causes of low-sex and sexless relationships, and digs immediately into offering the cure—a 10-week program that strips lovemaking down to its basics and eliminates bad habits that are driving couples apart. Couples relearn how to turn each other on, set their fantasies free, and introduce new ideas that will turn their lovemaking into an erotic, passionate, connected experience. At the heart of Marshall's program is establishing safe communication and trust without feeling fear, shame, or resentment.Marshall's secret to engaging in fulfilling and plentiful sex, is to avoid it completely—a paradox that has proven time and time again to work. From the beginning of the program, couples engage in A Month of Sensuality—four weeks of understanding their own erogenous zones, discovering their partner's body, and introducing sensual touching and kissing. This back-to-basics approach, which put sex off limits, takes the pressure off, does wonders for libido, teaches couples how to slow down and be present and check-in with each other about their pleasure, and urges them to schedule intimate time—time that is usually hijacked by hectic schedules, demanding children, and household and career duties. After they have completed A Month of Sensuality, couples graduate through two more phases that lead them to learn about different types of fantasy, orgasm, masturbation, and communication regarding what they want and need to not only have the sex they want, but the sex they always imagined they'd have. Andrew Marshall's progressive methods to bring a couple back together physically, sexually, and emotionally are practical and pleasurable and guaranteed to give you what you and your partner deserve—an active, erotic, transformative sexual relationship.