High Conflict People in Legal Disputes

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268752

Category: Law

Page: 260

View: 1961

People with high conflict personalities (HCPs) clog our courts as plaintiffs with inappropriate claims against their personal "targets of blame," and as defendants who have harmed others and need to be stopped. Everybody knows someone with a High Conflict Personality. "How can he be so unreasonable?" "Why does she keep fighting? Can't she see how destructive she is?" "Can you believe they're going to court over ______?" Some HCPs are more difficult than others, but they tend to share a similar preoccupation with blame that drives them into one dispute after another—and keeps everyone perplexed about how to deal with them. Using case examples and an analysis of the general litigation and negotiation behaviors of HCPs, this book helps make sense of the fears that drive people to file lawsuits and complaints. It provides insight for containing their behavior while managing and/or resolving their disputes. Characteristics of the five "high-conflict" personality disorders are explored: Borderline Narcissistic Histrionic Paranoid Antisocial Bill Eddy is a lawyer, therapist, mediator, and President of the High Conflict Institute. He developed the "High Conflict Personality" theory and is an international expert on the subject. He is a Certified Family Law Specialist and Senior Family Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center. He has taught at the University of San Diego School of Law, is on the part-time faculty of the Straus Institute for Dispute Resolution at the Pepperdine University School of Law and the National Judicial College, and lectures at Monash University in Australia.

Managing High Conflict People in Court

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: Unhooked Books

ISBN: 1936268019

Category: Law

Page: 60

View: 374

This book is designed for judicial officers to use in managing people with high conflict personalities in any courtroom, with an emphasis on family court litigants. This easy-to-read booklet provides judicial officers with accurate and authoritative information about the subject matters covered. It describes general principles and suggestions for judicial officers to immediately put into practice.

5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life

Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities

Author: N.A

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 0143131362

Category: Conflict management

Page: 208

View: 2814

Do you know someone whose emotions flip-flop from one moment to the next? Do they seem suspicious or jealous of others or antagonize you for no reason? You might be dealing with a high-conflict personality. 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Lifeis about people who are beyond difficult. When a high-conflict personality coincides with one of five common personality disorders--Borderline, Narcissistic, Paranoid, Antisocial, or Histrionic--they lash out in dangerous extremes of emotion and aggression. High-conflict personalities can seem charming and trustworthy for years, until one day they verbally attack you, attempt to ruin your reputation, or even threaten you with physical harm. HCPs blame everyone but themselves for their difficulties in life, and once they decide to target you, they're hard to shake. Bill Eddy, a law professor with extensive experience as a conflict mediator and therapist, will teach you to protect yourself from these attacks. With helpful anecdotes and expert advice, Eddy explains the warning signs of each high-conflict personality and how to avoid them using easy, proven conflict management methods and mediation techniques. With5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Lifeyou'll learn to safely manage or break free from a relationship with an HCP and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process.

It's All Your Fault!

12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others for Everything

Author: William A. Eddy,Bill Eddy

Publisher: Unhooked Books

ISBN: 1936268027

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 368

View: 707

Explains in easy-to-understand terminology, the behaviors of people with personality disorders or with traits, particularly blaming, irrational and impulsive behaviors.

Biff

Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: Unhooked Books

ISBN: 1936268353

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 158

View: 975

This little book gives more than 20 examples of BIFF responses--brief, informative, friendly, and firm--for all areas of life, plus additional tips to help readers deal with high-conflict people anywhere. 158 pp.

Don't Alienate the Kids!

Raising Resilient Children While Avoiding High Conflict Divorce

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268485

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 322

View: 9865

Don't Alienate the Kids! is a fresh examination of the child alienation problem from the perspective of a lawyer/therapist/mediator, who also trains judges on managing high-conflict disputes. Author Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq., doesn't just analyze the debate (Parental Alienation Syndrome vs. Child Abuse Presumption); he also proposes his own theory of "1000 Little Bricks," based on recent breakthroughs in brain research about how children learn. In his theory, there are no bad parents, just bad behaviors - the behaviors of both parents, family members, friends and divorce professionals. Most of these bad behaviors go unrecognized in daily life, but they help build a Wall of Alienation between a parent and child. By becoming aware and using his tips, we can all help children build a Foundation of Resilience which will last them a lifetime. By becoming aware and using his tips, we can all help children build a Foundation of Resilience which will last them a lifetime. This is a book for any parent even considering a divorce, and for any professional who wants to truly help parents raise resilient children. Bill Eddy's other books include: High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, It's All Your Fault!, Managing High Conflict People in Court, BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Personal Attacks, Hostile Email and Social Media Meltdowns. He is also developed the New Ways for Families method for handling high-conflict custody disputes.

So, What's Your Proposal?

Shifting High-Conflict People from Blaming to Problem-Solving in 30 Seconds!

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: Unhooked Books

ISBN: 9781936268627

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 157

View: 5933

An amazingly simple technique for getting high-conflict people to stop blaming others, and instead join in finding solutions to problems.

Splitting

Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Author: Randi Kreger,Bill Eddy

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 9781608824724

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

View: 3792

Protect Yourself from Manipulation, False Accusations, and Abuse Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. When your spouse has borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or is manipulative, divorcing can be especially complicated. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better—many of these “persuasive blamers” leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you

It's All Your Fault at Work!

Managing Narcissists and Other High-Conflict People

Author: Bill Eddy,L. Georgi DiStefano

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268671

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 260

View: 7048

No, it’s not just your imagination—more and more people in the workplace today have high-conflict personalities. Co-workers, clients, even bosses are behaving in narcissistic or bullying ways, choosing targets and then placing blame on them, treating them with disdain, or otherwise acting in aggressive, inappropriate ways. Some go so far as to spread damaging rumors, harass, or directly sabotage their targets, among other extreme behaviors. These are not people who are just having an occasional bad day; these are people who display a repeated pattern of high-conflict behavior. And they aren’t just difficult; they are the most difficult of people. They can make your life at work stressful, frustrating, and extremely challenging. The good news is that their behavior is not about you—it’s about them. What’s more, you can learn strategies and techniques to deal with them more effectively at work. Based on Bill Eddy’s high-conflict personality theory, he and co-author, L. Georgi DiStefano, expertly define the problem so you can recognize potential high-conflict people (HCPs) in your own work life. They describe the key characteristics of HCPs and the typical behavior patterns of five main types of high-conflict personalities. Then they walk you through their proactive approach for minimizing conflict and keeping interactions with HCPs as peaceful as possible. You’ll learn about—and see examples of—how to use a simple, proven four-step method to help calm HCPs, analyze your options, respond to hostility, and set limits on extreme behavior. While you cannot ultimately change someone else’s personality, you can adapt your own behavior and respond to the person in different ways that make things better at work for yourself, the high-conflict person, and your organization.

Dating Radar

Why Your Brain Says Yes To "The One" Who Will Make Your Life Hell

Author: Bill Eddy,Megan Hunter

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268132

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 185

View: 1533

Why do so many of us commit to the wrong person – sometimes more than once? While most believe that attraction and compatibility are the keys to relationship success, in reality these are red flags in 15-20% of the population. When it comes to love, the brain is irrational and short-sighted. We make decisions based on incomplete information, biased understanding, and strong emotion. Love truly is blind. That's why you need dating radar—it gives you a way to detect hazards you might otherwise miss by recognizing: 1. Warning signs of certain personalities that can spell relationship danger 2. Ways they can jam your radar (deceive you) 3. Where your own blind spots might be Attorney, mediator, and social worker Bill Eddy and relationship expert Megan Hunter equip readers to see through the blinding haze of new love and spot potential toxic relationships before it’s too late!

New Ways for Work: Workbook

Personal Skills for Productive Relationships

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: High Conflict Inst

ISBN: 9781936268689

Category: Business & Economics

Page: 50

View: 1948

This workbook teaches four personal self-management skills with numerous exercises for employees and managers in need of workplace behavior improvement.

Splitting America

How Politicians, Super Pacs and the News Media Mirror High Conflict Divorce

Author: Bill Eddy,Donald Saposnek

Publisher: High Conflict Inst

ISBN: 9781936268528

Category: Political Science

Page: 162

View: 4939

Splitting America is for anyone who is disturbed by the current political situation and wants to do something about it!

The Future of Family Court

Structure, Skills and Less Stress

Author: Bill Eddy LCSW Esq

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268507

Category: Law

Page: 112

View: 818

The Future of Family Court is designed for judicial officers with an emphasis on applying lessons learned from the field of mental health to the family court system, especially when working with parents with personality disorders or traits. Written from Bill Eddy’s perspective as a family lawyer and mental health professional, and as a trainer of judges in managing high-conflict people in court, he provides tips on what individual judges can do, rather than recommending sweeping changes in the court system or creating new players in the decision-making process. The court is in a good position to prevent child stress from the start or to reduce it by mandating efforts for positive change by their parents – from ordering parenting programs and classes, to setting limits on emotional attacks during the hearing process. Judges who apply the principles described in this book should feel a much better sense of control over their courtrooms and less stress, as the families are doing more of the work, practicing conflict resolution skills that will help them raise their children out of court, or showing each other’s patterns of behavior to more accurately see what needs attention and protective orders.

Trump Bubbles

The Dramatic Rise and Fall of High-Conflict Politicians

Author: Bill Eddy

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268116

Category: Political Science

Page: 103

View: 6071

Trump Bubbles: The Dramatic Rise and Fall of High-Conflict Politicians is the first book to really explain the rise and fall of Donald Trump, candidate for President of the United States of America. What’s a trump bubble? It’s when emotions trump thinking in politics. When fear trumps facts. When leader love trumps logic. Donald Trump is the most recent trump bubble, but trump bubbles have occurred before and will again. Remember the dot.com bust of 2000? The housing and stock market bubbles that burst in 2008? They were held up by “irrational exuberance." Now there’s the Donald Trump Bubble. People love him or hate him or are totally confused. However, he is quite predictable, if you understand high-conflict personalities. Trump Bubbles explains the rise-and-fall pattern of high-conflict politicians, focusing on the case of Donald Trump and the questions people ask: • Why do people compare him to Adolf Hitler in the 1920’s? • Why do people defend him despite his outrageous statements and beliefs? • Will he become reasonable if he ever becomes President? • Does he have narcissistic personality disorder? • Will he settle on a set of policies, or will he keep changing impulsively? • Could he be a good thing for American politics? • Would he start World War III? • How do you stop trump bubbles once they start? • What happens when a trump bubble bursts? To answer these questions, the author relies on social science, psychology and history, as well as his years of training professionals in dealing with high-conflict personalities and situations. It’s a beautiful thing!

The House Matters in Divorce

Untangling the Legal, Financial & Emotional Ties Before You Sign On the Dotted Line

Author: Laurel Starks

Publisher: BookBaby

ISBN: 1936268272

Category: Law

Page: 87

View: 5419

In divorce, deciding what to do with the house can become a huge source of strife, confusion, and even financial ruin. Most are unprepared for the unique legal, financial, and emotional ramifications of either holding on to or selling their house at one of the worst times in their life. The House Matters in Divorce presents the numerous legal, emotional, and practical challenges of equitably settling your marital home—and offers specifics on how to handle those issues and who to turn to for professional help. This book clears up common misconceptions about dividing real estate assets and empowers both parties to be proactive, make smart decisions, and emerge from this complex process financially sound and prepared for the future. It includes detailed information on: • Whether to sell or not • Common pitfalls that plague the uninformed • How to determine what the house is really worth • Making housing decisions that are truly in your children’s best interests • What to do about the deed and the mortgage if one spouse stays in the home • Proceeds of the sale (if any) and what to do if there is no equity • The court’s perspective and power Learn how best to deal with your most important financial asset—your home—from a real estate expert who specialize in divorce. Get the facts about how to make wise and purposeful choices to set yourself up for success as you move forward with building a new life—a life that includes financial health.

Stop Walking on Eggshells

Taking Your Life Back when Someone You Care about Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Author: Paul T. Mason,Randi Kreger

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications

ISBN: 1572246901

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 260

View: 1895

Discusses the signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder and explains how the families and friends of patients can cope with BPD behavior while taking care of themselves.

Conflict—The Unexpected Gift

Making the Most of Disputes in Life and Work

Author: Jack Hamilton,Elisabeth Seaman,Sharlene Gee

Publisher: iUniverse

ISBN: 1938908651

Category: Self-Help

Page: 274

View: 2263

ConflictThe Unexpected Gift Conflict between people can be defined as a difference that causes disagreements. Authors Jack Hamilton and Elisabeth Seaman go to the root of what causes conflict and how to rebuild relationships. Interpersonal conflicts permeate our lives. Sometimes we believe that another person treated us unfairly, and that assumption causes us to become angry at the person. Such conflicts in relationships often are intensified because of old patterns of thinking and behavior that have gotten out of hand. Becoming aware of someones true intentions, and the many factors that caused them to behave the way they did, as well as awareness of our own reactions, starts us on the path to mutual understanding and reconciliation. ConflictThe Unexpected Gift: Making the Most of Disputes in Life and Work suggests practical ways to honestly address, talk through and benefit from resolving conflicts. Every chapter has real-life accounts of peoples unresolved issues and the creative ways they resolved them. The book stresses the importance of knowing yourself, clarifying and letting go of unfounded assumptions, apologizing to heal old hurts and moving forward by not only repairing relationships, but also often improving them. Hamilton and Seaman wrote this book to give you the tools to talk through and mend unresolved issues that may have surfaced in your personal relationships.

Parenting Coordination in Postseparation Disputes

A Comprehensive Guide for Practitioners

Author: Shirley Ann Higuchi,Stephen J. Lally

Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)

ISBN: 9781433817397

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 298

View: 6519

This one-stop text contains all the information legal and mental health providers need to manage and resolve high-conflict custody disputes outside of the courts. The authors guide readers through the often difficult push-pull of parenting coordination sessions and describe empirically-validated behavioural change techniques that bring results with even the most high-conflict parents.