Facing Love Addiction - reissue

Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

Author: Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller,J. Keith Miller

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062031821

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 8161

A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody's concept is the idea of the "precious child" that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used with her new workbook for codependents, Breaking Free, this is a powerful tool for understanding the nature of codependence.

Facing Love Addiction

Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

Author: Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller,J. Keith Miller

Publisher: HarperOne

ISBN: 9780062506047

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 6332

The author of the bestselling Facing Codependence unravels the intricate dynamics of toxic love relationships and shows us how to let go of toxic love. In this revised and updated edition of Facing Love Addiction, internationally recognised dependence and addiction authority Pia Mellody clearly outlines the debilitating ′toxic′ patterns played out by love addicts and the unresponsive love avoidants to whom they are painfully and repeatedly drawn.

Addiction to Love

Overcoming Obsession and Dependency in Relationships

Author: Susan Peabody

Publisher: Celestial Arts

ISBN: 0307781305

Category: Psychology

Page: 216

View: 5811

Love addiction manifests in many forms, from Fatal Attraction-type obsessive lust to less extreme but nonetheless psychologically and emotionally harmful forms. The most common of these is staying in a bad relationship because of a fear of being alone-the "I hate you but don'¬?t leave me" relationship. In ADDICTION TO LOVE, recovering love addict Susan Peabody explains the variety of ways this disorder plays out, from the obsessively doting love addict to the addict who can'¬?t disentangle from an unfulfilling, dead-end relationship. Peabody provides an in-depth and easy-to-follow recovery program for those suffering from this unhealthy and often dangerous addiction and explains how to create a loving, safe, and fulfilling relationship. A seminal work on unhealthy and obsessive behaviors in love, and how to change behavior to have a positive relationship. This third edition includes a new introduction and revisions to the text throughout. Some symptoms of love addiction include love at first sight, excessive fantasizing, abnormal jealousy, nagging, and accepting dishonesty. Even relationships with parents, children, siblings, or friends may be addictive-dependency is not always related to romantic love. Previous editions have sold more than 40,000 copies."Love addiction is a three-headed serpent that Susan Peabody adeptly slays. This is the quintessential book for any love addict or counselor needing to fully understand this highly prevalent and complex disorder. Susan detects and dissects aspects of this condition not comprehended in other books of its kind. Recovery is possible. This book makes it possible to take the succinct steps necessary toward a loving and reciprocal long-term intimate relationship."-Sudi Scull, M.F.T., C.N., psychotherapist and nutritionist From the Trade Paperback edition.

When You Love Too Much

Author: Stephen Arterburn

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441265864

Category: Religion

Page: 256

View: 6466

Stephen Arterburn examines love addiction--why it is on the rise, what it looks like, who it afflicts, and what you can do if you suspect yourself or someone you love to be suffering from it. Like alcoholics or drug addicts, love addicts get high on sex and romance, develop a tolerance for it, and need ever-greater doses to keep going. With compassion and wisdom, Arterburn points the way to the psychological and spiritual healing that will enable men and women to enjoy the real and lasting intimacy for which they were created.

Facing Codependence

What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

Author: Pia Mellody,Andrea Wells Miller,J. Keith Miller

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062031805

Category: Self-Help

Page: 272

View: 5138

Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

The Intimacy Factor

The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love

Author: Pia Mellody,Lawrence S. Freundlich

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 9780061745195

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

View: 2337

In her first book in over 10 years, Pia Mellody—author of the groundbreaking bestsellers Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction—shares her profound wisdom on what it takes to sustain true intimacy and trusting love in our most vital relationships. Drawing on more than 20 years' experience as a counsellor at the renowned Meadows Treatment Centre in Arizona, Mellody now shares what she has learned about why intimate relationships falter—and what makes them work. Using the most up–to–date research and real–life examples, including her own compelling personal journey, Mellody provides readers with profoundly insightful and practical ground rules for relationships that achieve and maintain joyous intimacy. This invaluable resource helps diagnose the causes of faulty relationships—many of them rooted in childhood—and provides tools for readers to heal themselves, enabling them to establish and maintain healthy relationships.

Leaving the Enchanted Forest

The Path from Relationship Addiction to

Author: Stephanie S. Covington

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062043749

Category: Self-Help

Page: 208

View: 9793

Advice and step-by-step guidelines for those seeking to recover from addictive relationships.

Ready to Heal E-Book

Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships

Author: Kelly McDaniel,Sarah Boggs

Publisher: eBookIt.com

ISBN: 0985063327

Category: Self-Help

Page: 208

View: 5001

It's no surprise that our culture is addicted to "love." The sappy love songs, the enticing ads for romantic getaways and the desire to be cherished by a special someone will never lose their appeal. But for some women, this poses a significant problem. Because of their insatiable desire for love, they will do anything to find it and ultimately land in destructive addictive relationships over and over again causing incredible harm. This newly revised and expanded edition of Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path to living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women. A newly added chapter on "Mother Hunger" explores the role of the mother in infancy and how she ultimately impacts a daughter's ability to have healthy intimate relationships later in life. Break free from the chains of addictive relationships that sabotage happiness and self-respect.

Lean on Me

The Power of Positive Dependency in Intimate Relationships

Author: Marion Solomon

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9781575660196

Category: Dependency (Psychology)

Page: 269

View: 1794

Argues that codependency is a healthy, normal, and necessary phenomenon and that meaningful relationships with others strengthen and nurture us and support our self-esteem, contrary to popular myths that make codependency a totally negative concept. Reprint.

Love Addiction

A Guide to Emotional Independence

Author: Martha R. Bireda

Publisher: New Harbinger Publications Incorporated

ISBN: 9780934986915

Category: Autonomy (Psychology)

Page: 182

View: 2268

Love addicts are so obsessed with romance & with meeting the expectations of their partners that they completely lose their sense of self and their own legitimate needs. This book is unique because it teaches the skills you need to identify and change the circular, illogical and obsessive thoughts that fuel your addiction.

How to Break Your Addiction to a Person

Author: Howard Marvin Halpern

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 9780553382495

Category: Self-Help

Page: 263

View: 2713

A renowned psychotherapist explains how to evaluate a relationship and offers practical advice on how to get out of a relationship that is no longer satisfying, offering advice on understanding the difference between good and bad relationshpis, surviving the pain of breaking up, addictive behavior, and more. Reprint.

Codependent No More

How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Author: Melody Beattie

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1592857922

Category: Self-Help

Page: 276

View: 5505

The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More.The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life.With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.

Love and Addiction

Author: Stanton Peele,Archie Brodsky

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780985387228

Category:

Page: 326

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In "Love and Addiction, " published 40 years ago and sold as a mass-market paperback on love, Stanton Peele and Archie Brodsky laid out every major issue confronting the addiction field today. This pioneering classic, which was excerpted in "Cosmopolitan" and spawned the codependence movement, is the first-and still the definitive-book on addictive love. But it is much more than that; it is the book that explains why "addiction is not what we think it is. Love and Addiction" focuses on dependent love relationships to explore what both love and addiction really are-psychologically, socially, and culturally. Addiction is an overgrown, dependent, destructive relationship. Love is the opposite, a sharing, growth-inspiring one. The authors' analysis makes clear that an addiction is an experience that takes on meaning and power in light of a person's needs, desires, beliefs, expectations, and fears. By showing how addiction grows out of ordinary human experience, Peele and Brodsky offer a liberating understanding of "all " addictions-to alcohol, drugs, tobacco, food, gambling, shopping, electronic media, sex, or love. In 1975, "Love and Addiction" boldly proposed ideas whose truth is only now being recognized: Addiction is not limited to drugs, and drugs are not necessarily addictive. AA's 12 steps are not the last word in addiction treatment. On the contrary, practically oriented addiction treatments are more effective. The goal of addiction treatment and recovery is not abstinence to the exclusion of all else, but to build a life that rules out addiction. Love is the opposite of the self-protective constriction of addiction; it is the expansion of your spirit with another human being. Remarkably, all of these issues-the widespread application of the addiction diagnosis, the limited value of AA and its disease theory, the possibility that people can continue using but still eliminate addiction (harm reduction)-"are as hotly debated today as when Peele and Brodsky first analyzed addiction forty years ago. "Most remarkably of all, the answers Peele and Brodsky arrived at in "Love and Addiction" are only now being embraced by progressive thinkers in the field. "Destined to become a classic!" "Psychology Today" proclaimed in 1975. Rereading "Love and Addiction" 35 years later, addiction researcher Rowdy Yates wrote that the book "still reads absolutely true as an understanding of addictive behavior." Reading today this clairvoyant analysis of the most challenging issues we face in the twenty-first century-the meaning of love and the cure for addiction-you will recognize both the current relevance and enduring value of "Love and Addiction, "now reissued with a new (2015) Authors' Preface, the Authors' Preface written for the 1991 paperback reissue, and a brief new introduction to each chapter. Otherwise, nothing has been changed in the original book.

Women, Sex, and Addiction

A Search for Love and Power

Author: Charlotte S. Kasl

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0060973218

Category: Psychology

Page: 416

View: 7810

In our society, sex can easily become the price many women pay for love and the illusion of security. A woman who seeks a sense of personal power and an escape from pain may use sex and romance as a way to feel in control, just as an alcoholic uses alcohol; but sex never satisfies her longing for love and self-worth. In this wise and compassionate book, Charlotte Kasl shows women how they can learn to experience their sexuality as a source for love and positive power and sex as an expression that honors the soul as well as the body.

Is It Love or Is It Addiction

The book that changed the way we think about romance and intimacy

Author: Brenda Schaeffer D.Min, M.A.L.P., C.A.S.

Publisher: Hazelden Publishing

ISBN: 9781592858361

Category: Self-Help

Page: 296

View: 2255

Many of us confuse longing and obsession with true love. Through two previous editions, Is It Love or Is It Addiction? has helped countless people find their way from the trials and confusion of addictive love to the fulfillment of whole and healthy relationships. As the author reveals, we can begin to work through relationship difficulties with compassion and lasting effect by increasing our awareness of the ways that we express love. In this expanded third edition, Brenda Schaeffer draws on years of feedback and new developments to foster an understanding of love addiction: what it is and what it is not, how to identify it, and, even more important, how to break free of it. Stories of real people struggling to develop sound relationships illustrate the characteristics of healthy love and help readers to free themselves to find real intimacy. Included is the most up-to-date information about the biological basis of addictive behaviors and the impact of technology on intimate relationships. The author also explores the influence of past abuse and trauma on the predisposition to love addiction. Brenda Schaeffer, D.Min., M.A.L.P., C.A.S., is a licensed psychologist and a certified addiction specialist, and she holds a doctorate in spiritual psychology. Schaeffer lectures and trains internationally.

Ready to Heal

Women Facing Love, Sex, and Relationship Addiction

Author: Kelly McDaniel

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780977440030

Category: Psychology

Page: 176

View: 1819

Author Kelly McDaniels offers women compassionate yet direct guidance on how to change painful relationships. Readers will learn how to address patterns of choosing partners who are addicted to sex and substances, how to stop being involved in serial relationships, and what to do about anger and other painful emotions associated with intimate relationships.

When He's Married to Mom

How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment

Author: Kenneth M. Adams

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 9781416539360

Category: Psychology

Page: 256

View: 930

When a Woman Is in an Emotional Tug-of-War for Her Man's Heart Why can't he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when in love with a man who won't get married, won't stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called "mother-son enmeshment." In When He's Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma's boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including: -- Guidelines to help women create fulfilling relationships with mother-enmeshed men -- Tools to help mother-enmeshed men have healthy and successful dating experiences leading to serious relationships and marriage -- Strategies to help parents avoid enmeshing their children When He's Married to Mom provides practical and compassionate advice to the women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, to the mothers who wish to set them free, and to the men themselves.

Finally Getting it Right

From Addictive Love to the Real Thing

Author: Howard M. Halpern

Publisher: Bantam

ISBN: 9780553090031

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 261

View: 7795

Shares wise and compassionate advice on how to find and maintain a healthy, loving relationship without sacrificing passion

Insatiable

A Memoir of Love Addiction

Author: Shary Hauer

Publisher: She Writes Press

ISBN: 1631529838

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 220

View: 6603

In her professional life, Shary Hauer was a confident, successful, high-caliber executive coach who advised big-time corporate leaders around the globe—but her personal life was an entirely different matter. When it came to love, she was insecure, clingy, desperate, willing to do anything and everything to win and keep a man. Because without a man by her side, what good was she? In Insatiable, Hauer fearlessly chronicles her emotional journey from despair to hope, rejection to redemption, and self-hate to self-love, one man at a time. In candid detail, she relates what it is like to be trapped in the torturous cycle of love addiction—what it’s like to be forever searching, needing, obsessing, scheming, and agonizing for love, suffering from a hunger that never ceases—and what it takes to break free of that cycle. An intimate, soul-baring tale that sheds much-needed light on one of the least understood and talked about addictions, Insatiable is the story of one woman’s journey through the hellish, the humiliating, and the humbling in her single-minded pursuit of the most addictive drug of all: love.