Aftermath

On Marriage and Separation

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 1466820187

Category: Social Science

Page: 160

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In 2003, Rachel Cusk published A Life's Work, a provocative and often startlingly funny memoir about the cataclysm of motherhood. Widely acclaimed, the book started hundreds of arguments that continue to this day. Now, in her most personal and relevant book to date, Cusk explores divorce's tremendous impact on the lives of women. An unflinching chronicle of Cusk's own recent separation and the upheaval that followed—"a jigsaw dismantled"—it is also a vivid study of divorce's complex place in our society. "Aftermath" originally signified a second harvest, and in this book, unlike any other written on the subject, Cusk discovers opportunity as well as pain. With candor as fearless as it is affecting, Rachel Cusk maps a transformative chapter of her life with an acuity and wit that will help us understand our own.

Aftermath

On Marriage and Separation

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Macmillan

ISBN: 0374102139

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 146

View: 936

Presents a study on divorce and its place in modern society from the perspective of the recently-divorced author, discussing the pain that accompanies ending a relationship as well as the new opportunities it presents.

Aftermath

On Marriage and Separation

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Faber & Faber

ISBN: 0571277675

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 160

View: 1438

Using her own life as a starting point, Rachel looks at the issues that arise for a woman in the years after she has lived the defining experiences of feminity. She writes about marriage, separation, motherhood, work, money, domesticity and love. Cusk considers the kinds of generational knowledge the contemporary woman harbours, the terrors or expectations that have been passed down to her and that are refracted through the modern transformation of female status. Aftermath is written in the personal/political mode that characterised A Life's Work, Cusk's acclaimed book about becoming a mother.

A Life's Work

On Becoming a Mother

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Picador

ISBN: 1466891637

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

View: 9854

The experience of motherhood is an experience in contradiction. It is commonplace and it is impossible to imagine. It is prosaic and it is mysterious. It is at once banal, bizarre, compelling, tedious, comic, and catastrophic. To become a mother is to become the chief actor in a drama of human existence to which no one turns up. It is the process by which an ordinary life is transformed unseen into a story of strange and powerful passions, of love and servitude, of confinement and compassion. In a book that is touching, hilarious, provocative, and profoundly insightful, novelist Rachel Cusk attempts to tell something of an old story set in a new era of sexual equality. Cusk's account of a year of modern motherhood becomes many stories: a farewell to freedom, sleep, and time; a lesson in humility and hard work; a journey to the roots of love; a meditation on madness and mortality; and most of all a sentimental education in babies, books, toddler groups, bad advice, crying, breastfeeding, and never being alone.

Outline

A Novel

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 0374712360

Category: Fiction

Page: 256

View: 7057

A luminous, powerful novel that establishes Rachel Cusk as one of the finest writers in the English language A man and a woman are seated next to each other on a plane. They get to talking—about their destination, their careers, their families. Grievances are aired, family tragedies discussed, marriages and divorces analyzed. An intimacy is established as two strangers contrast their own fictions about their lives. Rachel Cusk's Outline is a novel in ten conversations. Spare and stark, it follows a novelist teaching a course in creative writing during one oppressively hot summer in Athens. She leads her students in storytelling exercises. She meets other visiting writers for dinner and discourse. She goes swimming in the Ionian Sea with her neighbor from the plane. The people she encounters speak volubly about themselves: their fantasies, anxieties, pet theories, regrets, and longings. And through these disclosures, a portrait of the narrator is drawn by contrast, a portrait of a woman learning to face a great loss. Outline takes a hard look at the things that are hardest to speak about. It brilliantly captures conversations, investigates people's motivations for storytelling, and questions their ability to ever do so honestly or unselfishly. In doing so it bares the deepest impulses behind the craft of fiction writing. This is Rachel Cusk's finest work yet, and one of the most startling, brilliant, original novels of recent years. A Finalist for the Folio Prize, the Goldsmiths Prize, the Scotiabank Giller Prize, and the Baileys Women’s Prize for Fiction One of The New York Times' Top Ten Books of the Year Named a A New York Times Book Review Notable Book and a Best Book of the Year by The New Yorker, Vogue, NPR, The Guardian, The Independent, Glamour, and The Globe and Mail

Kudos

A Novel

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 0374714584

Category: Fiction

Page: 240

View: 3930

Rachel Cusk, the award-winning and critically acclaimed author of Outline and Transit, completes the transcendent literary trilogy with Kudos, a novel of unsettling power. A woman writer visits a Europe in flux, where questions of personal and political identity are rising to the surface and the trauma of change is opening up new possibilities of loss and renewal. Within the rituals of literary culture, Faye finds the human story in disarray amid differing attitudes toward the public performance of the creative persona. She begins to identify among the people she meets a tension between truth and representation, a fissure that accrues great dramatic force as Kudos reaches a profound and beautiful climax. In this conclusion to her groundbreaking trilogy, Cusk unflinchingly explores the nature of family and art, justice and love, and the ultimate value of suffering. She is without question one of our most important living writers.

Crazy Time

Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition

Author: Abigail Trafford

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0062379836

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

View: 1507

Thoroughly revised and updated for a new generation, the essential guide for men and women to help them weather the turmoil of divorce and build rich, rewarding lives There is nothing easy about the breakup of a marriage, from coping with loss and failure to dealing with the uncertainty of the future. In this intelligent and insightful book, Abigail Trafford charts this emotional journey, identifying the common phases in the evolution from marriage to separation to divorce and eventually to a new life. Based upon her personal experience, extensive research, and interviews with hundreds of divorced men and women, Trafford offers individuals a better understanding of their own experiences and the message that they are not alone in their pain and confusion. Crazy Time is also an investment in the future—Trafford reveals the telltale signs of a marriage in crisis and discusses what determines whether a relationship will survive over time. This revised edition includes the most up-to-date research on the effects of divorce in adults' and children's lives, addresses the special challenges of becoming single again in the age of the Internet, and broadens the experience of divorce to include the breakup of all committed relationships. For anyone who has divorced, or is considering taking that step, Crazy Time offers a sense of hope and confidence that this transition is not only an ending but can also be a valuable beginning.

The Last Supper

A Summer in Italy

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 9781429930598

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 256

View: 9738

A vivid and elegant account of a family's season abroad by one of our finest contemporary authors Casting off a northern winter and an orderly life, a family decides to sell everything and go to Italy to search for art and its meanings, for freedom from routine, for a different path into the future. The award-winning writer Rachel Cusk describes a three-month journey around the Italy of Raphael and rented villas, of the Piero della Francesca trail and the tourist furnace of Amalfi, of soccer and the simple glories of pasta and gelato. With her husband and two children, Cusk uncovers the mystery of a foreign language, the perils and pleasures of unbelonging, and the startling thrill of discovery -- at once historic and intimate. Both sharp and humane in its exploration of the desire to travel and to escape, of art and its inspirations, of beauty and ugliness, and of the challenge of balancing domestic life with creativity, The Last Supper is an astonishing memoir.

Divorce, Families and Emotion Work

'Only Death Will Make Us Part'

Author: Elena Moore

Publisher: Springer

ISBN: 1137438223

Category: Psychology

Page: 274

View: 8119

“This book is a carefully researched, clearly written, very important contribution to our understanding of divorce.” —Arlie Hochschild, University of California, USA “This rich, evidence-informed narrative provides a frank, ‘up close and personal’ portrait of the aftermath of marriage dissolution.” — Mary Corcoran, Maynooth University, Ireland “Moore throws a welcome light on the moral identities and gendered inequalities of parenting after separation.” — Rosalind Edwards, University of Southampton, UK This book focuses on parental commitment to family life after divorce, in contrast to its common perception as an irrevocable breaking up of the family unit, which is often perpetuated by representations from popular culture and the media. In the first detailed review of emotions and emotion work undertaken by divorced parents, the author sheds light on how parents manage feelings of guilt, fear, on-going anger and everyday unhappiness in the course of family life post-divorce. Moore demonstrates how the emotional dimension of divorce is shaped by societal and structural factors and requires parents to undertake considerable emotion work in the creation of new moral identities. The book points to the often gendered responsibilities for sustaining family lives post separation, and how these reflect extensive inequalities in family practices. The author concludes that divorce is not dangerous for society; it is not a social evil or a demonstration of the rise of selfish individualism, and that divorcees remain committed to former partners and children long after divorce. This book will be of interest to scholars and students in the areas of Sociology, Psychology, Family Studies, Social Policy, Social Work and Law.

Arlington Park

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Faber & Faber

ISBN: 0571267181

Category: Fiction

Page: 256

View: 8398

Arlington Park, a modern-day English suburb, is a place devoted to the profitable ordinariness of life. Amidst its leafy avenues and comfortable houses, its residents live out the dubious accomplishments of civilisation: material prosperity, personal freedom, and moral indifference. For all that, Arlington Park is strikingly conventional. Men work, women look after children, and people generally do what's expected of them. Theirs is a world awash with contentment but empty of belief, and riven with strange anxieties. Set over the course of a single rainy day, the novel moves from one household to another, and through the passing hours conducts a deep examination of its characters' lives: of Juliet, enraged at the victory of men over women in family life; of Amanda, warding off thoughts of death with obsessive housework; of Solly, who confronts her own buried femininity in the person of her Italian lodger; of Maisie, despairing at the inevitability with which beauty is destroyed; and of Christine, whose troubled, hilarious spirit presides over Arlington Park and the way of life it represents. Rachel Cusk's sixth novel is her best yet. Full of compassion and wit, each page laden with truth, she writes about her characters' domestic lives, their private thoughts and fears with an intelligence and insight that will leave readers reeling.

The Book of Separation

A Memoir

Author: Tova Mirvis

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

ISBN: 0544520548

Category: Biography & Autobiography

Page: 320

View: 524

The memoir of a woman who leaves her faith and her marriage and sets out to navigate the terrifying, liberating terrain of a newly mapless world Born and raised in a tight-knit Orthodox Jewish family, Tova Mirvis committed herself to observing the rules and rituals prescribed by this way of life. After all, to observe was to be accepted and to be accepted was to be loved. She married a man from within the fold and quickly began a family. But over the years, her doubts became noisier than her faith, and at age forty she could no longer breathe in what had become a suffocating existence. Even though it would mean the loss of her friends, her community, and possibly even her family, Tova decides to leave her husband and her faith. After years of trying to silence the voice inside her that said she did not agree, did not fit in, did not believe, she strikes out on her own to discover what she does believe and who she really is. This will mean forging a new way of life not just for herself, but for her children, who are struggling with what the divorce and her new status as “not Orthodox” mean for them. This is a memoir about what it means to decide to heed your inner compass at long last. To free the part of yourself that has been suppressed, even if it means walking away from the only life you’ve ever known. Honest and courageous, Tova takes us through her first year outside her marriage and community as she learns to silence her fears and seek adventure on her own path to happiness.

When "I Do" Becomes "I Don't"

Practical Steps for Healing During Separation & Divorce

Author: Laura Petherbridge

Publisher: David C Cook

ISBN: 9781434765772

Category: Religion

Page: 256

View: 7509

When Laura Petherbridge realized her marriage was ending, she asked the gut-wrenching question, "What do I do now?" Now Laura offers practical answers about divorce that she has found through her own experience and through two decades of caring for those grieving the loss of a marriage. In the midst of pain and confusion, you might also be asking questions such as these: How do I find where I belong when I no longer know my identity? If my spouse asks for forgiveness, should I go back? If I get an attorney, will my spouse think I'm giving up on our marriage forever? How do I figure out a budget on my own? What should I do when others criticize my ex-spouse in front of my kids? How do I reenter the workplace after years of staying home? How will I know when it's a good time to date again? Does God still care about me? Will I ever be happy again? With straightforward, sensitive answers to these questions and others, Petherbridge offers real-life help, spiritual insights, and new hope for the future. Includes reflection and discussion questions after each chapter and guidelines for those who love someone who is getting a divorce.

Single, Married, Separated, and Life After Divorce

Author: Myles Munroe

Publisher: Destiny Image Publishers

ISBN: 9780768422023

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 140

View: 6628

In Single, Married, Separated and Life after Divorce Expanded Edition, Myles Munroe goes more in depth exploring the full range of human relationships. He demolishes the myths surrounding Usingleness' as he declares that it is okay to be single, but not good to be alone. Stepping out of the single life into the married life is a big step and Munroe offers tried and tested truths enabling men and women to survive the change from singlehood to marriage. Unfortunately, as more and more marriages are ending in divorce there is a desperate need for answers to the haunting questions that trouble the divorced person. Dr. Munroe does not avoid the tough questions as he tackles them one at a time. His answers will encourage and instruct those looking for answers to hopeless situations. This revised and updated edition contains two new chapters to further expound on the original text.

On Your Own Again

The Down-to-Earth Guide to Getting Through a Divorce or Separation and Getting o n with Your Life

Author: Keith Anderson,Roy Macskimming

Publisher: McClelland & Stewart

ISBN: 9781551991962

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 232

View: 5995

Every year, more than two million North Americans experience the trauma of separation and divorce. Now, at last, On Your Own Again provides down-to-earth help for readers seeking to survive a shattered relationship and build a new life.Written in Dr. Anderson's own personable, reassuring voice, this guide explains the four emotional stages undergone during and after separation and gives every reader the feeling, "He's talking about me." Dr. Anderson offers compassionate, practical, step-by-step advice. In no-nonsense language, often leavened with humour,he provides tools that can be used by readers male or female, young or middle-aged, straight or gay, in or recently out of a troubled relationship, to help cope with the loss and to speed recovery – so that they may lead rich, rewarding lives on their own again. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Transit

A Novel

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux

ISBN: 0374714576

Category: Fiction

Page: 272

View: 347

The stunning second novel of a trilogy that began with Outline, one of The New York Times Book Review’s ten best books of 2015 In the wake of her family’s collapse, a writer and her two young sons move to London. The process of this upheaval is the catalyst for a number of transitions—personal, moral, artistic, and practical—as she endeavors to construct a new reality for herself and her children. In the city, she is made to confront aspects of living that she has, until now, avoided, and to consider questions of vulnerability and power, death and renewal, in what becomes her struggle to reattach herself to, and believe in, life. Filtered through the impersonal gaze of its keenly intelligent protagonist, Transit sees Rachel Cusk delve deeper into the themes first raised in her critically acclaimed novel Outline and offers up a penetrating and moving reflection on childhood and fate, the value of suffering, the moral problems of personal responsibility, and the mystery of change. In this second book of a precise, short, yet epic cycle, Cusk describes the most elemental experiences, the liminal qualities of life. She captures with unsettling restraint and honesty the longing to both inhabit and flee one’s life, and the wrenching ambivalence animating our desire to feel real.

The Comeback

Seven Stories of Women Who Went from Career to Family and Back Again

Author: Emma Gilbey Keller

Publisher: Bloomsbury Publishing USA

ISBN: 9781608192496

Category: Social Science

Page: 240

View: 904

It's a tough economy for job-seekers, and it can be even more nerve-racking for women trying to juggle career and family. Women are used to being told that once we get off the career track, we can't get back on. In The Comeback, Emma Gilbey Keller proves that this isn't true: More and more, companies today are looking at the value of hiring returning mothers. In this encouraging book, Keller tells the stories of seven very different women from a variety of professions who sought to strike a balance between demanding careers and budding families. A new afterword looks at the personal balancing act of First Lady Michelle Obama. All of these women have complicated stories, filled with the choices, decisions, and trade-offs that all mothers face. An absorbing blend of story, insight, advice, and inspiration, The Comeback offers a positive message to mothers overwhelmed by the ever-shifting work-versus-home debate.

Saving Agnes

A Novel

Author: Rachel Cusk

Publisher: Picador

ISBN: 1466891645

Category: Fiction

Page: 224

View: 8946

The acclaimed winner of the Whitbread First Novel Award, by the author of The Country Life Chronically confused, terminally middle class, hopelessly romantic, Agnes Day lives with her two best friends in the London suburbs and works at an obscure trade magazine. Life and love seem to go on without her. But she gives a convincing performance that everything is alright--that is, until she learns that her roommates and her boyfriend are keeping secrets from her, and that her boss is quitting and leaving her in charge. In great despair, she decides to make it her business to set things straight. Rachel Cusk explores the business of growing up and moving on with a deftly comic, surprisingly moving touch, confirming her reputation as one of England's smartest and most entertaining young writers.

Divorce

Causes and Consequences

Author: Alison Clarke-Stewart,Cornelia Brentano

Publisher: Yale University Press

ISBN: 9780300125931

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 347

View: 8381

This comprehensive book provides a balanced overview of the current research on divorce. The authors examine the scientific evidence to uncover what can be said with certainty about divorce and what remains to be learned about this socially and politically charged issue. Accessible to parents and teachers as well as clinicians and researchers, the volume examines the impact of marital breakup on children, adults, and society. Alison Clarke-Stewart and Cornelia Brentano synthesize the most up-to-date information on divorce from a variety of disciplinary perspectives with thoughtful analysis of psychological issues. They convey the real-life consequences of divorce with excerpts from autobiographies by young people, and they also include guidelines for social policies that would help to diminish the detrimental effects of divorce.

An Heir Made in the Marriage Bed

Author: Anne Mather

Publisher: Harlequin

ISBN: 1459293118

Category: Fiction

Page: 192

View: 5157

One night back in her husband's bed… The inability to have a child left Joanna and Matt Novak's passionate marriage in tatters. But when Joanna asks her tycoon husband for a divorce, Matt makes it clear he expects them to remain married…in the most intimate of ways! As tempers flare, the raging desire between them explodes—just once more, Matt and Joanna give in to the thrill of each other's touch. In the shattering aftermath of their explosive encounter, they agree to part ways…until Joanna discovers one tiny consequence of their night together—she's carrying Matt's baby!

A Separation

Author: Katie M. Kitamura

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 039957610X

Category: Fiction

Page: 229

View: 9322

A NEW YORK TIMES NOTABLE BOOK Named a best book of the year by the New York Times, NPR, Huffington Post, The A.V. Club, The San Francisco Chronicle, The Guardian, Refinery29, Town & Country, Harper's Bazaar, NYLON, BookRiot. "Kitamura's prose gallops, combining Elena Ferrante-style intricacies with the tensions of a top-notch whodunit." --Elle This is her story. About the end of her marriage. About what happened when Christopher went missing and she went to find him. These are her secrets, this is what happened... A young woman has agreed with her faithless husband: it's time for them to separate. For the moment it's a private matter, a secret between the two of them. As she begins her new life, she gets word that Christopher has gone missing in a remote region in the rugged south of Greece; she reluctantly agrees to go look for him, still keeping their split to herself. In her heart, she's not even sure if she wants to find him. As her search comes to a shocking breaking point, she discovers she understands less than she thought she did about her relationship and the man she used to love. A searing, suspenseful story of intimacy and infidelity, A Separation lays bare what divides us from the inner lives of others. With exquisitely cool precision, Katie Kitamura propels us into the experience of a woman on edge, with a fiercely mesmerizing story to tell.